Long Distance Relationships – How to Manage

This is one of the frequently asked questions that do long distance relationships work or not? Well to be honest it absolutely depends on you and your ways of problem solving. Relationships are hard to maintain be it long distance or short for some. For such people none of these would work as they tend to have a negative mindset. So if you want your long distance relationship to work, then stop being pessimistic. A positive attitude can change everything in life. If you plan to get into one such relation then have faith in yourself first, then go ahead with it.

Experience the Change in Your Relations While Following Some Simple Rules

That is very true if you really want to make any relationship work then you need to certain norms. This endeavor is a candid discussion from my end for those who really want to make any relationship better by following some rules. Of course you cannot organize anything in this world without a set of laws! In the same way relationships also need to be unknotted and managed to run smoothly.

Anger Management in Relationships – How to Handle it

How to handle anger while in a relationship? This is a commonly asked question by many of us. As we all are human beings, we tend to be emotional. We laugh when we are happy, cry when we are unhappy, and one of such emotion is anger. It is a much unwanted feeling that we should be avoided to live peacefully on this earth. Likewise while we are in a relationship we want to be loved and attended to by our cohorts. For this we should bear one fact in mind that our partners also feel the same. Hence it is advisable for everyone that we should learn how to control our bouts of anger that will produce a healthy relationship.

How can you distinguish infatuation from love?

Yes how can you distinguish infatuation from love? This is very commonly asked question that bothers teenagers and adults alike. The fact that both infatuation and love are abstract ideas of the human mind makes it even complicated. In simple words it can be explained like this that these two are abstract feelings which cannot be evaluated. Emotions vary from person to person like thought processes. That is why it cannot be calculated on the basis of two and two make four. You need to be observant and have patience in order to find that difference between infatuation and love.

You must have noticed it that infatuation deals with superficial likings of a person. It could be that you like a guy or a girl because of his/ her looks and nothing more than that. Hence this gives birth to insecurity, possessiveness and trying to cling to your partner like an octopus. In the long run you are portrayed as someone you are not. This is because people think you are apprehensive and sick. Ultimately you will be told that you need some kind of help for acting like a maniac!

Love on the other hand is completely different from all this. It is a special feeling that makes you caring. You always tend to be thinking about the well being of your beloved. Love teaches you to let them go and never suffocate them. In other words you do not have to pretend to be someone else when you are truly in love. Remember one thing that I have understood over the years, that physicality is a part of love. Love is just like a huge ocean of intangible thoughts and getting intimate with someone is all about loving a person which can never be a necessity.

To some extent infatuation is driven by sexual urges but love can never be dependent on it to keep a relation alive. It is similar to your free will that rests in you and only you. You have the liberty to like or love a person. Unlike infatuation which is at times the resultant of peer pressure. In fact the process by which you can distinguish infatuation from love is called maturity.

How to cope with a series of heartbreaks?

Many a people question me about how to cope with a series of heartbreaks? What I tell them is something very similar to what I am going to discuss here. To start with I must say that if you have had multiple heartbreaks in your love relations, then you need to first analyze your ways. Point fingers at others may be easy, but people forget that you are also to be blamed for your broken relationships.

Have you ever thought of evaluating your own ways? Probably it is you and no one else at fault? Did you ever realize that? The answer is obviously in the negative. So for this you need to detoxify yourself. That would be to give oneself the time required to heal after failed a relationship. Don’t jump into another relationship just to show your ex that you are still wanted and desired by many. This leads you nowhere and adds to your despair.

Another thing that should be taken into consideration is that you should be able to bring changes in yourself. Go for a makeover, get a new haircut and get a new wardrobe. Show the world that you are making amends to your life. You need to get the feel of the difference in yourself over anyone else.

However do not depend too much on external modifications as an internal transformation is something that you need the most. Start observing people, do not trust them easily and above all be committed. Thinking of finding a new love is something that you need to take out of your mind. To elucidate this it has to be mentioned that you need to be focused and positive about a relationship as only then you can see it working.

Besides it needs to be added here that a series of heartbreaks make you strong. You get to identify behavioral patterns of people who can hurt. This will give you a better understanding of characters and it traits. This means it makes you matured and you need to take it as a part of your learning process. Think out of the box and be happy.

The greatness of the most important man to be celebrated as Father’s Day

Yes this is very true that the greatness of the most important man is to be celebrated as Father’s Day. This man is the one who created us and has been around us whenever we needed him. He is our father and his contribution in bringing us up is no less. He is the one who plays the role of a strict disciplinarian to help us understand the importance of self discipline. In most of the cases this style of nurturing kids gets overshadowed by the presence of a soft hearted mother. However once we grow up and step into his shoes, to be precise around the time we become parents, we understand the art parenting is not that easy.

According to the legend, it was some 4000 years ago that a boy from Babylonia had sent a card of clay to his father thanking him for support. It was in the last century that under social and political pressure the United States declared that the third Sunday of June would be regarded as Father’s Day. Besides all this, today even countries like India have joined in the brigade of thanking fathers on one single day.

So come let us celebrate this 19th of June 2011 as a special day dedicated to this man. For the lucky ones who still have their “old man” along with them, make them feel that it is both the commitment and the man that we have our gratitude for. As for the few unfortunate ones, who miss their fathers on this day can definitely express the same for someone they look up to as a father figure. You got to think about this living human being also who means a lot to you. We end by wishing all fathers “A VERY HAPPY AND SPECIAL FATHER’S DAY” from our side.

Contributed by Soumi Das Chatterjee.

Scheduled Success

Well, another one on another prospective series, demonstrating the success and scheduling. Is it true that scheduling can make you successful or just a natural flow of life keeps the secret of success?

Okay now, first and the most important thing to know that everything is rational as I talked in my previous blog Life without Walls. So as the success – it is rational as well. Means some people get what they need in their life and they call it success. Hence there is no specific procedure to measure the intensity of success. Success is what that makes you satisfied with your life.

Scheduled success is a quite different term. When we didn’t get the desired results while going with the natural flow then sometimes some people try to achieve success through other ways. I am not saying that it bad but it’s not good according to my point of view. If you didn’t get success then it means you didn’t try by your heart to achieve it. And if you are not trying with your heart then it means you are in a wrong direction. You are trying to turn the natural stream of your life, trying to get success in a stream that is not of your interest.
Believe me, by scheduling you may be some successful up to some extent but you will never be satisfied with your life. Because you are doing what that you don’t like to do. Thus it becomes boring and you feel it like a burden – carrying out just for earning your living hood. After sometimes, it leads to depression that you can see very frequently today here and there around you.

But if you are successful in a profession of your interest then you will live the ultimate satisfaction and enjoyment of natural stream. Fully satisfactory life without any tension or burden of work. Likewise me – I completed my engineering and worked as a software engineering for a while but after sometimes I got bored with it and thought that I am not for this profession. I changed my career to writing and SEO profession and now I am very happy because this profession satisfies the creative person inside me. I am enjoying my life up to the neck.
Always remember, you can never get true success if you will put yourself into another successful person’s shoe. Just try to derive your own way of living and definitely you will become the iconic and inspiring personality for others. Rewind the history, you will rarely find a legend personality followed the way shown by others. Each of them derived their own path of living and now they are legends.

Well guys, thanks for bearing me. It’s okay for the time being. I will meet with you guys with some other prospective soon. Till then bbbyeee.